I have been singing the Travelocity Traveling Gnome theme in my head alot recently. If you’ve seen the commercial you know it… “doo doot doot dooooo!” over & over. Because, as Beloved Husband is very willing to point out, I am, indeed, the happy traveling gnome.
This past weekend I was back at Fresh Yoga in New Haven for the third Forrest Yoga Mentorship session. As usual, it gave me a months worth of stuff to chew on. I’ll get to it over the next few days — we did a couple of seeing circles, were taught to do the ceremony of calling in the four directions, worked on intuition, took & taught a heart opening class, did guided writings… general awesomeness!
But today is a day devoted to spending time with BH just chilling out. It’s the first day we’ve had like that together in a while! So I give you the reading Heidi shared with us during opening ceremony. It’s from a book by Elizabeth Lesser called Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow. Read & Enjoy.
“Bozos on the Bus
We’re all bozos on the bus,
so we might as well sit back
and enjoy the ride.
-Wavy Gravy
One of my heroes is the clown-activist, Wavy Gravy. He is best known for a role that he played in 1969, when he was the master of ceremonies at the Woodstock festival. Since then, he’s been a social activist, a major “fun-d” raiser for good causes, a Ben and Jerry’s ice cream flavor, an unofficial hospital chaplain, and the founder of a children’s camp for inner city kids.
Every four years he campaigns as a candidate for president of the United States, under thepseudonym of Nobody, making speeches all over the country, with slogans like “Nobody forPresident,” “Nobody’s Perfect,” and “Nobody Should Have That Much Power.” He’s a seriouslyfunny person, and a person who is serious about helping others. “Like the best of clowns,”wrote a reporter in The Village Voice, “Wavy Gravy makes a big fool of himself as is necessary to make a wiser man of you. He is one of the better people on earth.”
Wavy (I’m on a first-name basis with him from clown workshops he’s offered at Omega) is a master of one-liners, like the famous one he delivered on the Woodstock stage: “What we have in mind is breakfast in bed for 400,000;” and this one, on why he became a clown: “You don’t hear a bunch of bullies get together and say ‘Hey, let’s go kill a few clowns.’”
But my all-time favorite Wavy-ism is the line above about Bozos on the bus, one he repeats whenever he speaks to groups, whether at a clown workshop or in a children’s hospital. I have co-opted the phrase and I use it to begin my workshops, because I believe that we are all bozos on the bus, contrary to the self-assured image we work so hard to present to each other on a daily basis. We are all half-baked experiments-mistake-prone beings, born without an instruction book into a complex world. None of us are models of perfect behavior:We have all betrayed and been betrayed; we’ve been known to be egotistical, unreliable, lethargic, and stingy; and each one of us has, at times, awakened in the middle of the night worrying about everything from money to kids to terrorism to wrinkled skin and receding hairlines. In other words, we’re all bozos on the bus.
This, in my opinion, is cause for celebration. If we’re all bozos, then for God’s sakes, we can put down the burden of pretense and get on with being bozos. We can approach the problems that visit bozo-type beings without the usual embarrassment and resistance. It is so much more effective to work on our rough edges with a light and forgiving heart. Imagine how freeing it would be to take a more compassionate and comedic view of the human condition – not as a way to deny our defects-but as a way of welcoming them as part of the standard human operating system. Every single person on this bus called Earth hurts; it’s when we have shame about our failings that hurt turns into suffering. In our shame, we feel an outcast, as if there is another bus somewhere, rolling along on a smooth road. Its passengers are all thin, healthy, happy, well-dressed and well-liked people who belong to harmonious families, hold jobs that never bore or aggravate them, and never do mean things, or goofy things like forget where they parked their car, lose their wallet, or say something totally inappropriate.We long to be on that bus with the other normal people.
But we are on the bus that says BOZO on the front, and we worry that we may be the only passenger on board.This is the illusion that so many of us labor under- that we’re all alone in our weirdness and our uncertainty; that we may be the most lost person on the highway. Of course we don’t always feel like this. Sometimes a wave of self-forgiveness washes over us, and suddenly we’re connected to our fellow humans; suddenly we belong.
It is wonderful to take your place on the bus with the other bozos. It may be the first step to enlightenment to understand with all of your brain cells that the other bus – that sleek bus with the cool people who know where they are going – is also filled with bozos – bozos in drag; bozos with a secret.When we see clearly that every single human being, regardless of fame or fortune or age or brains or beauty, shares the same ordinary foibles, a strange thing happens. We begin to cheer up, to loosen up, and we become as buoyant as those people we imagined on the other bus. As we rumble along the potholed road, lost as ever, through the valleys and over the hills, we find ourselves among friends.We sit back, and enjoy the ride.”
Excerpted with permission from Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow by
Elizabeth Lesser.
